“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel” – US Pastor Steven Furtick
Have you ever known an interior decorator whose house isn’t always perfect? Well now you know one – me
Here’s a truth for you: There is at least one moment every day where I feel like I’m not enough. Usually more, but at least one.
Either I’m not busy enough, or I’m not cool enough, or I’m not thin enough, or I’m not a good enough Mum/wife, or my photos aren’t pretty enough, or my house isn’t clean enough, or WHATEVER. Do you have those moments?
I was trying recently to remember whether I felt that way before social media, or whether social media makes me feel worse about everything.
Because scrolling through these endless feeds of shiny, happy, smiling people with perfectly styled families perfectly styled homes can get exhausting.
Everybody’s house always looks clean, well of course it does, why would you post a messy photo of your house?
Everyone always has perfect jawlines because we all know that you have to hold your phone up high when you take a selfie to make yourself look skinny.
And so many bloggers, even though almost every single one of them is down-to-earth and lovely, are constantly sharing these unattainable things that are amazing and beautiful to look at but totally unrealistic to apply to real life.
Then I started wondering and worrying whether Harp Interiors and all of my social media actually makes other people feel that same way.
Whether my blog or my Instagram posts actually do the opposite of my goal, which is to share ways to make your home the way you want it, and to give you inspiration.
The thought that I could somehow be discouraging or overwhelming you, or make you feel like you’re not enough — well, it just doesn’t sit well with me.
So here’s what I want to say today. You are enough. And we’re all messy.
Instagram is fun because it’s sort of a rose-colored version of life. We want to share the beautiful parts, and that’s natural. And it can be inspiring.
But please know that for every pretty photo that I post, there are at least one hundred messy moments.
The moment where I lose my temper at my kids. The moment where I’m on the couch in raggedy sweatpants with a messy living room, too tired to clean it. Or the moment where I walk down my carpeted hallway only to walk into a furball left by my cat.
I think the beauty of all of those moments is that we can all relate. Right? I’m sure that I’m not alone in losing my temper or any of those other messy moments.
So to you all (and to myself), here’s a hug and a reminder from my heart that we’re all messy and we’re all wonderful. We each have strengths and we each have weaknesses. And nobody’s — I mean noboby’s — life looks exactly like their Instagram feed. 😉 xoxo